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34 hours, from acquaintance to friendship
建立友誼需要多久？心理學家：34小時
A study found that it takes about 34 hours of investment to shift from a superficial acquaintance to a true friendship. According to the study, a total of 11 interactions are required to move from acquaintance to friendship, with the average friendship taking 5.5 months to turn into something solid.
一項關于友誼的調查結果發現，與新認識的人建立友誼需要34個小時。從“泛泛之交”發展成真正的朋友需要大約11次互動、每次至少交流3小時，平均需要5個半月的時間。
According to the study, "Lockdown made people rethink a lot of their friendships. And one of the big problems [has been] friendships are very dependent on continued investment of time, so if you aren't able to see individuals at the requisite rate, they're just going to slide."
“封鎖讓人們重新思考自己的許多朋友關系。由于友誼非常依賴持續的時間投入，所以如果你與朋友交往互動不夠，友誼就會消逝?！?/p>
The study found certain qualities are most important for friendship. In particular, 61% of respondents believe a sense of humor is an essential ingredient of friendship, and 44% say it's about holding similar values. For 26%, friendship is driven by similar interests and activities. People also say friendship is based on being trustworthy (26%) and reliable (23%).
調查結果還顯示，人們交友時比較看重某些特質：61%的人認為幽默感很重要；44%表示需要價值觀相同；26%希望好朋友與自己有共同的興趣愛好；此外，值得信賴（26%）和可靠（23%）是友誼的基石。
The researcher Robin Dunbar became famous for his classic theory that people can maintain meaningful relationships with about 150 others. This is based on brain size, but it’s also based on the amount of time and investment it takes to maintain connections with each other. Within their 150 relationships, the average person has about five people who are close friends — the people you can really rely on, and with whom you have the deepest relationships.
研究員鄧巴因提出“社會大腦假說”而聞名。他認為，受到腦容量和時間成本限制，現代人最多可以和約150人保持友誼。平均每個人大約有5個親密的朋友——你真正可以依靠的人，你與他們有著最深厚的關系。
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